How to accept myself/my destiny?

I'm of the belief that there's someone out there for everyone. I'm really not the romantic type, so I don't go for that soul mate crap, but I do believe anyone can find someone to be with. Its all about how you project, and confidence goes a long way, even if it is faked. I used to be extremely self conscious, and I would stare at the ground as I walked through crowds, then I just got tired of it, held my head up high, and acted like I like myself even when I didn't. Holding your head up high when your not confident makes you confident over time. And when I find myself being selfconsious again, I rationalize: I say "why do I give a **** what these people think of me? Does their opinion actually make any difference to me? Do they sign my paycheck? Am I going to get fired because some prick in walmart thinks I'm fat? Am I ever going to see these people again in my life? Five minutes from now they'll have forgotten me. They mean nothing to me." You have to learn not to give a ****. Anyone who doesn't want to get to know you just because of your appearance isn't worth getting to know anyway. And trust me on this, there are plenty of women out there who go for hairy guys, or shorter guys, or both. What chases them away if your distaste for yourself. It gets tiresome have to constantly reure someone you're dating that you like them despite or because of their appearance. Be happy with who you are because its not likely to change in this lifetime, and as soon as you start to love yourself, the relationships will happen. I really have no doubt about that.